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The five hottest scenes in 50 Shades of Grey are different for everyone. There are just so many to choose from! For some people, the hottest scenes are not the sexiest scenes. They quote the interview, dinner at the Heathman and chasing the dawn hang gliding as the most burning and sensual passages because of the intense emotional connections that happen between Christian and Ana. They are what suck us into the story of the characters, not just the physical interactions.
It is easy to identify with those people and their opinion. But who are we kidding? There aren’t a lot of those people.
Most people go right to the sexy segments in any discussion of the Hottest Scenes of Fifty. There is no shortage of lines to talk about and these five might not be your five. But they are pretty hot.
First Elevator Kiss
“Before I know it, he’s got both of my hands in one of his in a viselike grip above my head….I moan into his mouth, giving his tongue an opening…..I have never been kissed like this.” Most women haven’t, which is why this scene makes it first on this list and is on EVERY woman’s list, even those who have never read the book. What is it about elevators indeed?
Continued Basic Training
After a wonderfully vanilla first time (which oddly doesn’t make this list), Christian and Ana continue her “training” in the bath. Ana turns the tables on Christian. “He’s my own Christian Grey-flavored popsicle…..My inner goddess is doing the merengue with some salsa moves.” Sadly, grocery stores don’t carry Christian Grey-flavored popsicles and most inner goddesses only remember the dance moves they learned in gym class.
Feminine Hygiene Help
It is the cringe-worthy factor of this scene that makes it so electric. Ana may have used Christian’s toothbrush but this takes intimacy and privacy invasion to a whole different level. “‘Hold on the sink’, he orders and drags my hips back again ….. He reaches between my legs and pulls on the blue string – what?! – and gently takes my tampon out and tosses it into the nearby toilet.” Oh my. What follows is even better.
Christian may have carried Ana out to the boathouse but she takes control once inside, kissing him to avoid a spanking. His confusion over her use of free will to tell him no at the dinner table and initiate the kiss leaves him looking for satisfaction but willing to give none. “This will be quick, and it’s for me, not for you.” The honesty is powerful, refreshing and undeniably sizzling.
In the movie trailer, a blindfolded Ana sits up against her bonds, gasping. It is the gasp heard 90 million times all around the world as readers of 50 Shades of Grey devoured this scene. Romance, erotica and sensation combine to drive Ana wild and Christian over the edge with the rest of us grappling for breath. “Slowly, he slides the mask on, pulling the elastic over the back of my head, and I’m blind. The elastic on the mask holds the earbuds in place.” So it begins, moving onto the cuffs, the hand, the flogger, the tongue. The action races to the climax, leaving the reader panting and wanting more.
It will be interesting to see how these scenes and other scorching favorites are treated on the big screen.
The wild popularity of the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy has fueled the curiosity of those who want to try some of the steamy sex scenes. You might be one of those individuals but aren’t sure what it is or how to get started.
For starters, BDSM refers to a combination of three phrases, “Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism”. It is not about pain and pleasure. It is more about sensation play and power dynamics. Someone has all the control and his or her partner has none. The key to successful and satisfying BDSM is to balance it so that each attains a great deal of pleasure from the experience in their respective roles.
Getting started does not require going out and buying a blindfold and riding crop. Those may be fun later, but to get started, here’s what you need to know.
- Know your desires. There are no wrong or right yearnings. Just be sure to keep fantasy and reality separate.
- Know what you will and won’t do. These are often referred to as hard and soft limits. Hard limits are what you are not okay with under any circumstances, soft limits are those actions that make you nervous, and then there is everything else.
- Discuss boundaries with your partner. He or she needs to know those limits and you need to know theirs. BDSM is first and foremost about trust. Always stay within the limits.
- Communicate. BDSM is not a mind-reading sport. Talk about the scene ahead of time. Be open to your partner’s desires and limits and do not be afraid to speak yours. Set the safe words as well – one for “slow down” and one for “full stop”.
- Try one thing at a time, take it slow. Once you and your partner decide what you are going to do, stay within the scene. If something strikes you as desirable, save it for the next experience. Refer to number three above.
- Check in later. Once the experience is complete, check in with your partner. It may be okay right afterwards or a few hours later but be sure to make contact no later than the next day. Discuss what worked, what didn’t, and what you might want to try next time.
Exploring BDSM is a long-term journey. The more you know, the more comfortable you are along the way. You can read books, attend conferences or watch it in action. Things often look more intense than they feel. Investigation can yield pleasurable results for everyone.